Being grounded and steady is underrated.
Let’s look at Sophie in five parts.
1. The High-Functioning Years
She wakes up early. The gym is a given.
Stacks her schedule with no margin.
Answers emails and listens to podcasts while downing her breakfast.
Measures success in a completed checklist.
She feels valuable because she performs.
Because she accomplishes.
Because she never drops the ball.
She doesn’t just like being capable; she needs it.
2. The Breakdown (A Slow Drip)
The gut flares.
The nervous system stays on high-alert.
Her body won’t let her push through.
The fatigue doesn’t lift.
Sleep stops cooperating.
The brain fog and weakness make even simple things hard.
Discipline can’t save her.
Instead of being patient, she becomes a patient.
Suddenly she is no longer high functioning
she is just… functioning.
Barely, some days.
The body is the last place we expect rebellion.
But when it does rebel, it is a wake-up call you cannot ignore.
3. The Identity Crisis
Who is Sophie if she:
Can’t power through?
Can’t multitask?
Can’t dominate her to-do list?
Has to nap?
Has to say no?
This is where humility enters. When performance left, she met the parts of herself she had neglected.
And she began to wonder if God had been waiting there for her all along.
4. The Paradigm Shift
Not because she understood it or could explain it. But because fighting it was exhausting.
Not “everything happens for a reason.”
That doesn’t help at 11am when you must lie down.
But something for Sophie shifted.
Slower mornings.
Short, honest conversations with God.
Looking up at the sky instead of down at a checklist.
Walking without tracking steps.
Noticing a bird she’s never seen before.
In the quiet, she began to notice God not as a fixer but as a steady presence.
5. The Learning to Be Steady
She didn’t lose her drive. She just stopped using it to control the outcome.
Sophie used to chase 10’s; Now, her life lives in the 6’s on a good day. And that is OK.
She celebrates:
Waking up and being okay enough to walk.
Savoring each bite of food.
Thinking clearly and maybe writing something.
Making something special for her hubby. Sleeping through the night.
Enjoying a treat with her daughter instead of declining it.
Sending the encouraging email even if it isn’t perfect.
Laughing with her husband at the dog’s ridiculous antics.
Trying a new recipe and not caring if it’s perfect.
Texting a friend just to say hi.. without an agenda.
Sitting in the quiet without needing to fill it.
Reading a paragraph and actually remembering it.
Driving without rehearsing tomorrow in her head.
Answering a question without over-explaining.
Sitting on the floor with her daughter just because.
Browsing Amazon together when she’s too tired to shop. Leaving something undone and sleeping anyway.
Laughing at something small and not analyzing why.
Steady doesn’t trend.
There’s no adrenaline rush.
It doesn’t look impressive online.
But steady changes everything.
When the body only knows chaos, it will stay in chaos even when you try to rest. The steady is what retrains, restores, and refreshes.
It’s underrated, and maybe that’s the point.
Maybe the ordinary, grounded, sometimes boring 4–6 (vs. 10) day is where the real strength lives.
At least now, for Sophie.
(This is a post I wrote for Substack. I decided to write it in 3rd person as a way to look at myself from the outside. Very cathartic).
