2.0 has happened. Now, tonight we graduated to 2.1. You see, Daddy now got her all dressed up and took her to nice places. He and I have dated at California Pizza Kitchen often in our early years, and now, he continued the feasting. Yes, no Chik-Fil-A this time; he wanted her to feel ultra-special.
Well, I don’t know about you, but I would feel amazingly blessed just to be hanging out with my daddy. I don’t remember being treated like a queen as a child. I was more like a “hafta.” Yes, he had to visit me every Sunday as a court order, and it happened. Sure, I loved it, but I would have loved it more if he would have told me that he truly loved me and followed up on it. (if I would have felt important and adored).
Doug is being the kind of father I never had, and she has never experienced. It’s such a gift, and I’m forever grateful. She won’t be physically starved (because he’s present) or emotionally starved (because he HEARS her heart and adores her), searching for significance in any guy that comes by. She’ll know that she deserves the best because her daddy has treated her with respect, honor, and love.
Hooray!!! Praise you Jesus and thank you for being the kind of man I have dreamed of.
Every single day, I write in a gratitude journal. Starting the day off with a reason to be grateful gets my mind and heart aligned with God. It doesn’t end there. It only is just the beginning. My Bible gives me wisdom as this week I study Hebrews and fall deeper in love with my Savior. But, you see, prayer is my direct connection to my Daddy. My Father. My Lord. My Savior. I also want to engage the Holy Spirit (HIM inside of me), so I talk to Him. Constantly. “Pray without ceasing….” (1Thess 5:15).
Just this morning, on the way to school, Tatum and I listened to a song by Lincoln Brewster, The Power of Your Name. Here are some of the lyrics:
And I will live, to carry your compassion to love a world that’s broken to be your hands and feet
and I will give, with the life that I’ve been given to go beyond religion to see the world be changed, by the power of your name
I couldn’t help but weep. It stayed with me all day, and I thought, how can I make a difference in all that I do? How can I pray for my loved ones today?
First, I wanted to lift up TATUM. She would go to school with a new game to try with the kids and a positive attitude. I prayed for her to be Jesus’ hands and feet with kindness. She has so much love in her heart.
I prayed for my honey. First, he looks so cute with his new pants and belt/shoes to match. Use him at his work and protect his heart. Give him wisdom with his decisions today. He is so loved and appreciated.
I lifted up my Mom. Keep her warm in your arms, Father! Keep her healthy, help her sleep deeply and long, and give her a long healthy life! I love you so much; we ALL DO!!!
I prayed for Austin. Oh, dear Austin! We will all be closer one day, I know it. You’re launching and getting on your feet in a strong way. Lord, continue to bless his steps and his journey! Help him grow in hunger for you, Jesus!
Then there’s the sweet little guy. May he not fall ill from his chewed toys. Oh Cooper.
He just can’t get cuter. THANK YOU FOR HIS KIND SPIRIT.
He is the reminder of YOUR love for me! He is always so loving and kind.
Today, the day did not go as planned. I had a blowout on the freeway,
but God was IN THE WHOLE THING. It happened near a gas station; I had cancelled an appt, and if I wouldn’t have, I would have been late to pick up Tot. Also, this nice attendant helped me (when he was told he shouldn’t by his boss..liability issues). He said he always errs on the side of caring and serving.
So many ways God was watching over me. When we all came together for dinner, I found many of my prayers answered for Tatum and Doug. My mom even had a great sleep from the prior evening.
We can choose to focus on the flat tires in our lives, or we can choose to focus on the spare tires that we all have. That extra dose of “It’s going to be OK, and I’m with you always.” (like that tire in our trunk). God is reliable, trustworthy, and EVER PRESENT in times of trouble.
I end every evening with some more reading, praying and of course, this little guy. He loves to love on us, but tonight, I think he was just being grateful for his mommy.
I’m grateful for my family, and especially my Lord, my God, my Savior.
Tatum has been BBBBBBF (best best best….friends) with Charlotte since last year. They were inseparable.
This year, Tatum gets into the car daily with a little story of how Charlotte ignored her or didn’t want to play with her. For example, they play kickball daily, and today, Charlotte told Tatum to go on the other team. Then the other team said they didn’t want her on their team but to go back to Charlotte’s team. She ended up leaving the game because she felt not wanted. Charlotte really hurt her feelings. This isn’t new. It happens daily. Tatum is never mean back. In fact, she asked Charlotte if they were still best friends.
Well, this just breaks MY HEART as I hear these things. I know there are two sides, but I did witness Charlotte ignoring Tatum when she excitedly approached her in the morning. Ugh….girl drama is starting, and I cannot protect her from it. Oh, that her heart would never be hurt or wrinkled. However, this will help her to grow. Her sensitive heart is so much like mine! It’s a blessing and a curse to have such a sensitive heart. (You get hurt a lot, but how can I teach her that it might not be personal or that this might not be a real friend?)
In the car, I tried not to lecture about friendships. I just empathized. I did say, however, that a real friend is a friend at all times. (Tatum had shared that during the day, Charlotte will be her best friend, and then ignore her the rest; it’s like a friendship built on sand, not rock) Tatum, maybe give her space?
THEN IT HAPPENED> She said, “Mommy, on Monday, I’m going to come up with a game and see if anyone wants to play.” SHE IS BEING A LEADER AND NOT LETTING THE HEARTBREAK CONTROL HER.
She brainstormed the game and came up with Simon Says Get your Wiggles Out.
That night, Daddy had the idea that she have a prop of some sort to make it fun. Tatum thought a remote or a phone would be fun. The one who is “IT” would have to hold the device and use it for leading the group. So I provided the cardboard, and she got to work.
Ok, then we practiced. I encouraged her not to tell the kids that she was in charge. Allow others to be “IT,” and don’t be the boss of everyone. Make it fun for everyone.
So she practiced how she would get the kids to play and then we practiced.
Cooper did great following the Simon Says prompts.
Tatum, you are learning so much. Humans are human, and sometimes you’ll get hurt. Just don’t be mean back. EVER!! Think how Jesus would respond; continue being YOU and don’t let anyone steal your spirit. Just YOU be a good friend, and I promise the friends you make will respect you and will be friends back. I love you and am so proud of you.