Category: Totally Tatum

You can turn around a disappoint by taking your eyes off yourself.

Can I tell you a quick story? 

Well, back in the summer, we went to a King and Country concert…they are A.M.A.Z.I.N.G in concert, and I decided to buy tix for their concert this Friday night Dec. 8th. Bought the tickets back in July!

I got awesome seats and parking..spent a TON of money. All good, right? 

Well, alas. It’s been a VERY rough year for me (actually the past five but this past one has been the worst), and I was hoping for a break by Dec. 8th. I’ve been going to bed at like 8:45pm every night because that has been life or death for me. Since the concert starts at 7, and seriously I have a bit of fear to go. Breaking Tatum’s heart has been the toughest part.

We turned it all around; TATUM and I decided: LET’S DONATE THE TICKETS! She WOULD LOVE TO DONATE the tickets to someone in Unlimited Special Ministries or a Pastor at SBC.

We reached out to Carolyn Meyers at SBC who is the head of the Special Ministries.

This is her email.

Hi Steph, 

I reached out to all our DK Unlimited families as well as the special needs moms in our moms’ group at SBC.  A woman named Brittni has a son in a wheelchair She, her husband, and her sister will be going. She is THRILLED! How could she not be.  This is amazing! Thanks so much for thinking of our special needs families.  This is huge for them. 

So Grateful,

Carolyn

THEN, Brittni emailed:

Hi!

Can you please send this to the generous donor!

Hello!

Thank you so much for these concert tickets! We love country music and get out for concerts rarely so this is such a treat! So thankful for you generosity! 

Love, blessings and Merry Christmas!

Matt and Brittni Lamb and Brittni’s sister who is joining us;) 

Tatum also decided she’d give US a concert tonight! She’s been working so hard on practice. Here is her dress rehearsal.

I love her ATTITUDE. We have so much JOY. Yes, we miss out, but we MAKE THE MOST of it and SEE JESUS’ hand in everything.

Tonight’s her concert! We cannot wait. Make giving a habit. Amen.

She had tried out back in October to play Mary at the PVCP Christmas concert, and tonight would be the big night!

She practiced so very much with Mrs. Cline, and Mrs Cline had such kind words to say about Tatum;

In fact, this was the email I received the next day after we gave her a thank you gift:

SHE DID TOTAL EMBODY MARY with her nurturing way. This night would be never forgotten. …Anyway before the night, we gifted Tot:

We arrived early to save front seats, and the program was waiting. Tot: Top billing!

The first part of the concert led up to Mary and her calling from God.

All the music and was just so inviting and beautiful! Of course, I just couldn’t wait for Tatum to arrive on stage. Oh…wait, here she comes with her hubby, Joseph. (Hayden!!! We love him!)

We awaited for her to speak!
But they first had to be near the angels and manger.

She then prayed and prayed.

We all were speechless. Her speech humbling herself before God as a chosen servant was awe-inspiring.

She then held Baby Jesus as if she was really holding him.

Gulp. Wow. Just ….wow.

Her dear friend Felicity also sang a beautiful solo

After, so many came up to me with so many compliments of her maturity, beauty, and articulate words.

It should have been a HUGE shindig. No, a fabulous PARTAY…but alas; it was just us. The three of us. Which to me is the best of all.

Tatum loved on him with a card.

She to multiply his age times a billion and give him this many hugs!
She wanted to find a bonding activity, so she got him this video game. We are still looking for fun ones to do together.

WE need ideas here as we are not video game geek experts! sigh.

Now, I wasn’t sure what to do for my honey as I wish I could give him a weekend away. Suffice it to say, I am hoping to help his sleep at least so he remains top notch!
The OURA ring will hopefully help. I LOVE MINE!

He will size his finger and then we’ll get it ordered.

Lotsa cards and love to my honey bun.

Oh, and then..his FAV. Lemon cake. (now mind you, I make it keto-friendly, but it still tastes..well, DELICIOUS!

I love you beyond I can express. You keep me going, my love. Without you, Tot and Jesus, I’d be a mess. May this next year be our best. xxoo

And we still are communicating often.

She is our girl in Rwanda. We cannot wait to meet her one day!

My honey. He plans…percolates…perseverates…ponders…until he gets it all set up in his mind. Such is this year.

He had us come out to the sidewalk and await the unveiling of BEAUTY. Wonder. LIGHT!

Let’s scoot on in.

The story of the little red truck and how it just had to be part of our display. Not only this antique vintage one, but the lil bitty ones on the tree. Gosh. Isn’t it just the sweetest evah!?

He thought of everything. OH..wait. The reason for the season. Not the truck. HA!
Jesus? Are you there? Are you anywhere around? Yes, honey, next weekend.

Stay tuned, folks.

In the meantime, inside, we get ready.

Thank you, Baby, for doing all you do to make our Christmas deLIGHTful! XXOO

It was a miracle. Truly. The whole week of November 20th, I was not doing well. Nope. My body was not moving and my mojo was dead. I was so nervous about pulling off Thanksgiving with Austin and my mom. BUT, Alas. I woke up feeling like a human, and YES! I could make the sides, and my honey could smoke our lovely little turkey.

Tatum made my day with a little picture to say I LOVE YOU.

Then, off to the kitchen to get my groove on. Mashed cauliflower, Roasted maple carrots, green beans, and some salad. It would be delightful with daddy’s winning smokey masterpiece.

I had Tatum work on the table decorations. She made each place setting, and made it look welcoming.

She also got all perty in her new Old Navy warm up suit. Oh, my…she is beautiful! (Photo bomb by Coopy)

Mama and Austin came over early, and they intensely…(srsly!) played the game of SORRY. Again, maybe sorry we played this?

Let’s lighten it up with a few pics, k?

Oh, look at that…my lil QTpie.

And who is the other star of the day? THIS HHH! Look at his masterpieces? Still SMOKIN and LOOKS DELISH!

We are a great team, honey!

We had no problem eating this…

Oh, look at my family for whom I’m so very grateful.

A success because we not only enjoyed the meal, but we enjoyed just being together. Simple and fun. I’m so blessed to have this family. It may be small, but it is MIGHTY!
God is good all the time; all the time, God is good.

One. One. How did this happen? Eleven years of blessings beyond belief from this vivacious, dynamo of a kiddo. God has lent me this girl, and I couldn’t be more grateful.

She woke up to a card that maximized a hug for her and a “let’s go buy a book today!”

AND SO… at 9am, the minute Barnes and Noble opened, we were there. Coffee, books, and relax. aaaahhhh.

While she read, I put the new cover on her new…..well, yes, phone.

Ok, here’s the scooperama on that. She uses my old iPhone for pictures, music, and some podcasting capabilities (recording). I figure that I shouldn’t fight the “NO PHONES” until she’s 16, and then BOOM, here’s a fancy computer (phone) with all kinds of capabilities. Dumb. No, you work up to it with building trust. You also work WITH your child to teach them how to be responsible with this powerful device. Liken it to you not just handing over the keys to a car and so, “good luck driving.” You drive with them for at LEAST 6 months, teaching them the ins and outs of how to drive and what NOT to do. SO…as is with a phone.

Verizon had a deal that I could turn in my phone and add a new phone to our family plan for free. AND, I could disable the SIM card so the phone number would not be active. She would only be able to text me ( or other iPhone users). Also, she could download APPS ONLY after it texted me to ask if OK. AND…no phone number until we are ready for that capability (texting too). It’s a great way to build trust and also make it so the phone isn’t this “TABOO” thing until _____. It’s like withholding candy. They go BERSERK behind your back…so we work on this together and I teach her tech responsibility and tech manners (and tech balance).

After three days, it’s already lost its “thrill.”

Ok, onto the festivities of the day. After the surprise B and N, Verizon visits, I made some pumpkin muffins with cream cheese frosting (all dairy, sugar, and gluten free!). YUM!
(She’s off dairy and gluten right now due to some health issues…:-(, but we make the best of it!) (actually they taste better)

Ok…thennnnnn, I said, let’s go see a movie! TROLLS 2. SO fun, so 3-D, here we come.

OH, but WAIT!!! FIRST< we must go outside and see what Daddy has in the back of his car.

Let’s “scoot” on over to check it out.

Matches your shoes and all, oh, and we got TURBO (which means that you can GOOOOOO as fast as those green shoes will take you, my love.)

FIRST< a GAME to say, “SORRY.”..I must beat your booty!

So, after all this fun, we said to meet at the dining room table for some more lovin’ fun.

All her cards decided to sing to her, and did she have a dance in her step.

Snoopy NEVER gets old.

Truly the BEST DAY EVAH was 11.22.

And our fav ….HOOPS and YO YO!~
Little fun gifts….socks, ornaments…and her new video game (she ‘s been asking for this and it’s parent/family approved)

To top it allllll off, some dairy free, coconut-whipped-topped with marshmallow birthday sundae.

That’s right. This little light of mine. I love to see her shine, and she truly brightens EVERY minute of my day. Even the dim moments, she still flickers love.

Was it a full-fun-filled day?
You be the judge.