A Wholly B-Rainy Day

The minute we arrived at our destination, it decided to rain in sheets! Tatum and I were drenched, but that did not stop us from our fun day.

Before we left the house, however, she surprised us with a little present in her potty. Her choice to go! She grabbed about three books and plopped down. (By the way, this is why I (the germophobe) disinfects library books when I get home because I’m sure there was another little one who had the same idea with this same book)IMG_0486

A little bit of everything was the mantra of the day, and honestly, I think each piece of her brain was firing on all cylinders.

Her emotions were flying high when I left her in the Kids Klub at the gym. Usually, she wants three or four hugs and kisses and is FINE, but today, she wanted about five, and as she continued to cry a bit, knowing I ALWAYS come back finally said, “I love you, mommy,” and walked off with her friend Mac.

When I returned, it was a different story. She had a crowd of about three girls (all about six years old) surrounding her on the carpet and she was reading them a story aloud. When she stopped, she said, “Mommy, this is Hannah and ‘Lina (for Angelina), and…’what was your name?’ and Janie.” OK, my girl is 2.8 and she’s running the show and being the social queen. Plus, she’s entertaining them with a  book.

Now only sprinkling, we headed to a makeup swim class for some more neural connections…and of course some social time to talk to the instructors and thank them for all they do! She dove in and rolled on her back then on her tummy three times without Kylie’s help. Yahoo!

On our way home, she wanted to read another book, so I let her read I Want My Hat Back, and we both had a laugh. There is a running debate about the bear and if he ate the bunny who took his hat? Or did he just sit on her….hmmm. IMG_0474

Finally, it was time to boost that hippocampus which is an area of the brain involved in learning and memory. She practiced her guitar along with Laurie Breckner playing her guitar. IMG_0481

She seems to like “I’m Gonna Catch You” the most, but the side effect is that I’m singing it in my subconscious all day long. It’s like that commercial you can’t get out of your head.

No day can be complete without a little building, so of course we had to build some kind of tower. Tot was more interested in the little truck with a hook and talking to the little girl next to her, but either way, it was fun for me to stack some legos.
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It was a WHOLE day engaging the WHOLE brain.
Coti play usually ends our day, but since it was so stormy out, he was hiding in Tatum’s room in the corner.

IMG_0488Whatever God has in store for this amazing child, I have no idea. What I do know is that her LIGHT WILL SHINE wherever she goes, and that she will be a blessing to others. If she can remember that as her purpose, then I know she will be a successful, happy person!

 

Precious LOVE

Project “draw the babies” has come to a close.

If you know Tot, she has two little friends who go everywhere with her. She used to only have one, but then she found the “backup” baby, and the rest is history. Now, it’s Baby 1 and Baby 2. (Baby 1 is on the left)
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It was so fun to unveil the final product to Tatum. Moreover, I found a verse that coincides nicely with the concept of this love. See, these babies are so precious to Tatum, and she reaches for them when she is sad, hurt, down or just needing a boost.

(What you will notice, is Baby 2 has lost a tinge of her nose. Her “nose job” required some scissors to catch the stray thread. Now, her nose is just a bit thinner.)
IMG_0372This is so much like God’s LOVE which never ends; it’s steadfast! Psalm 36:7 says it best.

We discusses where to hang them and although over her crib seemed logical, we both agreed that thematically, they belonged near the other white frames.
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She was right.
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Try again!

I had just gotten her out of bed, and she instantly wanted to play on her piano. She wanted me to sit right next to her, and when I attempted to hit one of the buttons, she sassily screamed, “No!” I immediately got up and walked out of the room and told her I did not appreciate her attitude. She would need to try again. I proceeded to go into my room.

After about a minute, she begged me to return to try again, and she sat herself on the carpet, closed her eyes, sitting indian style and said, “God help me.” She looked at me and said, “Mommy I need to try again and I need to pray for help.” Melt. I told her she should just say, “No, Thank you,” if someone touches it and she doesn’t want them to.

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Next thing I know, she is sweetly saying, “No thank you” when I touched it. The whole experience was a learning experience for both of us. Her ability to honor me and the grace I give her to “try again” is the fuel that keeps her making the right choices and grow.

Focused and ready to take on the day, we went and visited Ms. Barb at her new Preschool. She will be going for about 2 hours 2 days a week. While there, she met a friend, Bren, and they decided to paint.

IMG_0441I love their philosophy about not having commercial toys but more real life stuff. The play is authentic and teaches them to be more imaginative. She’ll start in about two weeks, and although I’m sad to not be with her a bit during the week, I know she will love it. I also know that she will have many opportunities to not give up but to continue to TRY AGAIN!

 

Only one year ago…

Did I make the crucial decision not to return to my job. What has become is beyond description.

I remember the fear that overtook me when the next day came. What will I do with her all day? How will I teach her? How do I do this without a steady income? Can I be a good mom to her? What if…blah blah blah. The questions were never ending, however, I KNEW deep in my soul it was the best thing I could ever do.

My daughter is someone I want to be with every minute of the day. Yes, a 2.7 year old is actually pretty fun, and although sometimes I want to throw up my hands and hide, I cannot imagine any other way. Moreover, the relationships she is building is what I notice the most; not only with me, but with Coti!IMG_0408

She adores him. He just had a minor surgery on his teeth yesterday, and she even cried when she couldn’t play with him for one day. Cried! Today, she just couldn’t stop hugging him.

So back to what happened a year ago today. We actually went on a play date to Scottsdale Fashion Square last year, and returned this year with some of our same mommy friends. But now? They are the best of our friends. Robert and Jennie; Timoree and Forest; Elizabeth and Nicholas; Kristin and Ellie (her other 4 were at their grandmas);  Nicole with Sammy, Logan, Kenzie; Lori and Avery; Alicia and Adorra. Linda Fox came to support us all. We missed having Janette and Levi there, but we made up for it by sitting on the duck like old times with Levi. (she had her babies enjoy instead)

IMG_0415I would not trade my life for anything. This next year will be again in God’s hands. I cannot wait.

 

Building Social Emotional Skills through Cooperative Learning

Building Social Emotional Skills through Cooperative Learning

Dr. Stephanie Knight

It seems as though the kids who enter my classroom have more needs than ever before.  Sure, they need the three R’s, but they also enter with social emotional deficits. This impacts their learning! On one hand emotions have the potential to boost students’ thinking, but conversely they can inhibit learning. Daniel Goleman, the expert on Emotional Intelligence, would stress teachers need to be not only discussing feelings but adding this emotional intelligence quotient into the day. (Goleman, 2001) I have found that Social Emotional Learning (SEL) skills embedded into the curriculum + Cooperative Learning structures + Reflection = Optimum learning for life long skills.

Embedding vs. Explicit

Mastering the emotional intelligence skills (self awareness, managing emotions, self motivation, empathy, and handling social relationships), coined by Daniel Goleman (1995), is crucial for school and life success. SEL is a process for teaching these skills. One way to help students gain these skills (like lessons on empathy, etc.) is to teach them explicitly as part of the curriculum. This takes extra planning and perhaps can replace what must be covered. On the other hand, there is power in the embedded curriculum. Many seem to learn better when the skill is applied, such as a simple Think Pair Share (taking turns and sharing ideas), and Kagan would argue that the Cooperative Learning (CL) structures are a way of teaching by doing (Kagan, 2001).

Yes, but HOW?

CL is not new but many struggle with its implementation. Without structure, getting my students to work cooperatively never worked. However with the use of formal CL in the classroom, students have roles and participate in decision-making. There is safe expression of ideas while they foster positive social relationships. Simultaneously, there is the teaching of accountability and responsibility.

The key is STARTING my year showing that our classroom goal is to be a community. Students must have BUY-IN and that is why we discuss how we will work on the emotional skill goals. These goals are posted along with empowering quotes showing that we will be a cooperative learning classroom. However, practice and constant modeling is crucial. I use the structures for content, but I always will add in a fun icebreaker to keep us community-oriented. Class-builders should be done weekly too.

Practical ideas for using SEL in the CL

Each week, post the social-emotional goal on which you would like to focus. The

following are some great Cooperative Learning strategies developed by Kagan (2001). Again, this is part of the goal of being a community. Self-awareness can start the year because you might want to have students have journals, think pads, and personal space on which they can rely.

1.     Self-Awareness

 

  • Journal Reflections: Students keep a feelings journal in which they record their emotional reactions to anything which occurs in school including successes, failures, and relationships. (Kagan, 2001)
  • Always allow think time before they respond on a think pad or such.
  • (Each student should have a think pad (a blank notepad) so they can record a thought before answering in class. This also allows one to record any thoughts without blurting out impulsively).

 2.     Self-Control

 

  • Talking Pencils: This approach works wonders for discussion or even a practice for multiple-choice answers. (“It can’t be “B” because…; or “it might be “C” because…”)
  • When one wants to share his/her opinion, he/she places his pencil in the center of the four-person group. Once each has spoken, he/she cannot speak again until everyone has put in a pencil. When all pencils have been put in, they take them back and start with the next question.

3.     Self-Motivation

 

  •  Rally Coach: This method allows each student in a pair to solve a problem with coaching from the other partner, fostering self-worth and independence.
  • A pair could be working on a math problem or a lab report.
  • Partner A can work the first problem while Partner B watches, listens, coaches, and praises.
    • This part is going to require practice as many don’t know how to listen, coach, and praise.
    • Students’ confidence will build and they will want to solve problems because they won’t feel like failure is fatal.
    • Next, Partner B solves the next problem while Partner A watches, listens, coaches, and praises. Partners take turns until the task is complete.

 4.     Empathy

 

  • Jigsaw: With this method, each student on the team masters a different part of the lesson. Each teammate leaves the team, and works with like-topic members from other teams. Students then return to teach their teammates their portion of the content. (Hirsch, 2014)
  • This not only builds empathy as students learn to really listen, but it also builds self-confidence and motivation as other students become experts.
  • According to Hirsch (2014), “Cooperative learning creates what Daniel Goleman calls “cognitive empathy,” a mind-to-mind sense of how another person’s thinking works.”
  • Many Kagan Structures encourage empathy because they involve asking others questions, interpreting body language, and discussion.

 

5.     Relationship Skills

 

  • CenterPiece: This approach is a great interaction brainstorming opportunity.
  • Each group needs five pieces of paper per team of four, one paper each and one in the center.  There is a brainstorming topic, and each participant writes his/her choice. He/she says it, writes it, and exchanges the paper with the one in the center. Participants continue to brainstorm, each time trading their page with the CenterPiece.
  • Finally, the teacher leads in whole group discussion of each centerpiece title and allows groups to share/explain responses.  This can work great for writing prompts or reviewing math problems. At the same time, group dynamics continue to strengthen.
  • To build relationships, all of these structures or many others suffice.

Student Reflection and Self-Assessment

Ideally, reflection should occur daily and is perfect inside the journals or on a peer, self, or group reflection sheet. Without the process of thinking back on one’s experiences, one cannot truly grow into a deeper understanding of self. Plus, this creates accountability so students can stay focused on goals.

Choosing to embed Cooperative Learning structures into the regular curriculum enables students to practice using social skills throughout the school day. Optimum learning is contingent on healthy SEL which comes from CL and reflection. If started early and continued consistently, things will change, and the classroom will become a true community.

 

 

 

 


 

References

 

Goleman, D. (1995). Emotional intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ.  New

York: Bantam Books.

 

Goleman, Daniel. Emotional Intelligence: Five Years Later, February 23, 2001.

http://www.edutopia.org/emotional-intelligence-five-years-later

 

 

Hirsch, Joe. Teaching Empathy: Turning a Lesson Plan into a Life Skill, February 6,

2001.http://www.edutopia.org/blog/empathy-lesson-plan-life-skill-joe-hirsch

 

 

Kagan, S. Kagan Structures for Emotional Intelligence. San Clemente, CA: Kagan

Publishing. Kagan Online Magazine, Fall 2001. www.KaganOnline.com

Cleaning machine

I was having a nice conversation with my mom, and it seemed very quiet. Too quiet. The usual Tot noises were not occurring. She had asked me for a paper towel and the spray bottle. Little did I know she’d be cleaning the oven!IMG_0394

I sneaked up on her only to see her then cleaning the drawers!

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I had to overlook the fact that she had sprayed half the bottle all over the floor and herself, but my little cleaning machine had cleaned the whole oven!

I needed to capitalize on this motivation, so after she got dressed, I showed her the Bissel. She jumped on the chance to clean not only my room but her’s as well. IMG_0400 IMG_0402 IMG_0403 IMG_0405Aah..if this is the life that is to come, I’m in GOOD hands.

Tot School 2!

The day came to unveil the…tada….!Tot School lap books! I’d been working on them as discussed in prior posts and I think they came out pretty well. Tot chose the Veggie Tales theme first..

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We did colors, shapes, and “Where are the Veggie” prepositions.

IMG_0383Dora because she’s awesome. (muy bien)IMG_0392The Hungry Caterpillar

IMG_0389IMG_0391 Word World IMG_0390So, I get it..I’m a bit over-excited. But I sure enjoy watching her have fun while she learns.