Building Social Emotional Skills through Cooperative Learning

Building Social Emotional Skills through Cooperative Learning

Dr. Stephanie Knight

It seems as though the kids who enter my classroom have more needs than ever before.  Sure, they need the three R’s, but they also enter with social emotional deficits. This impacts their learning! On one hand emotions have the potential to boost students’ thinking, but conversely they can inhibit learning. Daniel Goleman, the expert on Emotional Intelligence, would stress teachers need to be not only discussing feelings but adding this emotional intelligence quotient into the day. (Goleman, 2001) I have found that Social Emotional Learning (SEL) skills embedded into the curriculum + Cooperative Learning structures + Reflection = Optimum learning for life long skills.

Embedding vs. Explicit

Mastering the emotional intelligence skills (self awareness, managing emotions, self motivation, empathy, and handling social relationships), coined by Daniel Goleman (1995), is crucial for school and life success. SEL is a process for teaching these skills. One way to help students gain these skills (like lessons on empathy, etc.) is to teach them explicitly as part of the curriculum. This takes extra planning and perhaps can replace what must be covered. On the other hand, there is power in the embedded curriculum. Many seem to learn better when the skill is applied, such as a simple Think Pair Share (taking turns and sharing ideas), and Kagan would argue that the Cooperative Learning (CL) structures are a way of teaching by doing (Kagan, 2001).

Yes, but HOW?

CL is not new but many struggle with its implementation. Without structure, getting my students to work cooperatively never worked. However with the use of formal CL in the classroom, students have roles and participate in decision-making. There is safe expression of ideas while they foster positive social relationships. Simultaneously, there is the teaching of accountability and responsibility.

The key is STARTING my year showing that our classroom goal is to be a community. Students must have BUY-IN and that is why we discuss how we will work on the emotional skill goals. These goals are posted along with empowering quotes showing that we will be a cooperative learning classroom. However, practice and constant modeling is crucial. I use the structures for content, but I always will add in a fun icebreaker to keep us community-oriented. Class-builders should be done weekly too.

Practical ideas for using SEL in the CL

Each week, post the social-emotional goal on which you would like to focus. The

following are some great Cooperative Learning strategies developed by Kagan (2001). Again, this is part of the goal of being a community. Self-awareness can start the year because you might want to have students have journals, think pads, and personal space on which they can rely.

1.     Self-Awareness

 

  • Journal Reflections: Students keep a feelings journal in which they record their emotional reactions to anything which occurs in school including successes, failures, and relationships. (Kagan, 2001)
  • Always allow think time before they respond on a think pad or such.
  • (Each student should have a think pad (a blank notepad) so they can record a thought before answering in class. This also allows one to record any thoughts without blurting out impulsively).

 2.     Self-Control

 

  • Talking Pencils: This approach works wonders for discussion or even a practice for multiple-choice answers. (“It can’t be “B” because…; or “it might be “C” because…”)
  • When one wants to share his/her opinion, he/she places his pencil in the center of the four-person group. Once each has spoken, he/she cannot speak again until everyone has put in a pencil. When all pencils have been put in, they take them back and start with the next question.

3.     Self-Motivation

 

  •  Rally Coach: This method allows each student in a pair to solve a problem with coaching from the other partner, fostering self-worth and independence.
  • A pair could be working on a math problem or a lab report.
  • Partner A can work the first problem while Partner B watches, listens, coaches, and praises.
    • This part is going to require practice as many don’t know how to listen, coach, and praise.
    • Students’ confidence will build and they will want to solve problems because they won’t feel like failure is fatal.
    • Next, Partner B solves the next problem while Partner A watches, listens, coaches, and praises. Partners take turns until the task is complete.

 4.     Empathy

 

  • Jigsaw: With this method, each student on the team masters a different part of the lesson. Each teammate leaves the team, and works with like-topic members from other teams. Students then return to teach their teammates their portion of the content. (Hirsch, 2014)
  • This not only builds empathy as students learn to really listen, but it also builds self-confidence and motivation as other students become experts.
  • According to Hirsch (2014), “Cooperative learning creates what Daniel Goleman calls “cognitive empathy,” a mind-to-mind sense of how another person’s thinking works.”
  • Many Kagan Structures encourage empathy because they involve asking others questions, interpreting body language, and discussion.

 

5.     Relationship Skills

 

  • CenterPiece: This approach is a great interaction brainstorming opportunity.
  • Each group needs five pieces of paper per team of four, one paper each and one in the center.  There is a brainstorming topic, and each participant writes his/her choice. He/she says it, writes it, and exchanges the paper with the one in the center. Participants continue to brainstorm, each time trading their page with the CenterPiece.
  • Finally, the teacher leads in whole group discussion of each centerpiece title and allows groups to share/explain responses.  This can work great for writing prompts or reviewing math problems. At the same time, group dynamics continue to strengthen.
  • To build relationships, all of these structures or many others suffice.

Student Reflection and Self-Assessment

Ideally, reflection should occur daily and is perfect inside the journals or on a peer, self, or group reflection sheet. Without the process of thinking back on one’s experiences, one cannot truly grow into a deeper understanding of self. Plus, this creates accountability so students can stay focused on goals.

Choosing to embed Cooperative Learning structures into the regular curriculum enables students to practice using social skills throughout the school day. Optimum learning is contingent on healthy SEL which comes from CL and reflection. If started early and continued consistently, things will change, and the classroom will become a true community.

 

 

 

 


 

References

 

Goleman, D. (1995). Emotional intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ.  New

York: Bantam Books.

 

Goleman, Daniel. Emotional Intelligence: Five Years Later, February 23, 2001.

http://www.edutopia.org/emotional-intelligence-five-years-later

 

 

Hirsch, Joe. Teaching Empathy: Turning a Lesson Plan into a Life Skill, February 6,

2001.http://www.edutopia.org/blog/empathy-lesson-plan-life-skill-joe-hirsch

 

 

Kagan, S. Kagan Structures for Emotional Intelligence. San Clemente, CA: Kagan

Publishing. Kagan Online Magazine, Fall 2001. www.KaganOnline.com

Cleaning machine

I was having a nice conversation with my mom, and it seemed very quiet. Too quiet. The usual Tot noises were not occurring. She had asked me for a paper towel and the spray bottle. Little did I know she’d be cleaning the oven!IMG_0394

I sneaked up on her only to see her then cleaning the drawers!

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I had to overlook the fact that she had sprayed half the bottle all over the floor and herself, but my little cleaning machine had cleaned the whole oven!

I needed to capitalize on this motivation, so after she got dressed, I showed her the Bissel. She jumped on the chance to clean not only my room but her’s as well. IMG_0400 IMG_0402 IMG_0403 IMG_0405Aah..if this is the life that is to come, I’m in GOOD hands.

Tot School 2!

The day came to unveil the…tada….!Tot School lap books! I’d been working on them as discussed in prior posts and I think they came out pretty well. Tot chose the Veggie Tales theme first..

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We did colors, shapes, and “Where are the Veggie” prepositions.

IMG_0383Dora because she’s awesome. (muy bien)IMG_0392The Hungry Caterpillar

IMG_0389IMG_0391 Word World IMG_0390So, I get it..I’m a bit over-excited. But I sure enjoy watching her have fun while she learns. 

 

A day with the MOMS!

And what a blessing it is. I’m part of a tremendous group called Mom’s of the City (MOTC). The joy of being part of this group last year as a SAHM enabled me to make a bunch of close mommy friends and friends for Tot. It’s also a group that believes that you just have to be REAL and show up. We all come twice a month for sharing, praying, encouraging, and laughing! Tot gets to be with her friends at the same time.

This next year, I have been asked to be a table leader. This means I’ll be loving on about 8 women as I help them build stronger bonds with not only each other but Jesus and His love. Being a part of the leadership also means I had to attend a meeting this Saturday all day. What was I to do with the Tot? Well, dear Janette had the same issue, so I brought Tatum over to play with her boy, Levi, and she hired a sitter, Jackie, for the whole day. They had a B..L..A..S..T!!! This calmed me and also made her so happy! 
IMG_0376Jackie mentioned she was so kind and polite the whole time. This also made me smile!

Of course we had to start the day with a devotion and quick story as usual. This starts the day out with a positive spin and a calm mind!

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Taking a breath on the way to Avery!

For the life of me, I could not find our destination today. It was a birthday party and if I did not give her a promised slice of cake, I’d never hear the end of it. I kept trying to tell her we celebrate birthdays to make that person feel special, not to eat cake. However, that is a nice bonus!

She could see I was a bit flustered driving, and she said, “Mommy, now, take a breath and ask Jesus to help you.” Brilliant. My kid is brilliant. Where did she get this piece of advice!? Isn’t it amazing when our child gives us back what we give them? And, it’s so simple full of child-like faith. Just like Jesus modeled and shared. Upon my breath and short prayer, she said, “Now, mommy, don’t you feel better!?” As a matter of fact I did. I felt even better knowing my daughter is full of wisdom.

Happy 3rd Birthday  Avery! You have a  fellow Thomas lover in Tatum!
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Mommy, watch me!

It’s so fun to be an audience. Tatum is constantly wanting to be watched or played with. Now, this sounds like a tall order, however,  the girl is so dang cute I could easily do it without being commissioned.
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Her swim lesson today was worth seeing. She kept watching to see if I was watching!
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But the best part was when I came in to get her from her nap. She had somehow retrieved the keyboard and was playing tunes. IMG_0344She had heard me say that I did not want her to touch my computer please, so when I came in she said, “Mommy, I told the babies not to touch my ‘puter.”

If not tempered, her ability to tell others what to do and her strong sense of self could become haughty and pious. But, we mold, shape and focus her behavior on the way she could be strong AND kind.

Organization and Appreciation

No agenda today! Seriously, this is like the first day in forever that we had nowhere to be at no particular time. So…I planned on going to the zoo bright and early. Unfortunately I shared this plan with Tatum, and she expected to go. Upon pleading with her to go another day, and that we would have a blast at home playing in her house, she agreed.

Before we went down to have brekkie, I asked if she wanted to grab a book. She plopped on my bed and started reading Polka Dot Puppy. 

IMG_0271Great! She is over going to the zoo and we can have a great day. I figure I will work on organizing her closet and making more Tot Books. That means laminating laminating laminating cutting cutting cutting and pasting pasting pasting. Much effort but worth it.

Luckily, she just stayed busy. I love that she loves to read. The toys she tends to gravitate to are now Bella, her kitchen, and well…books! Tot grabbed a book and a Highlights magazine. We popped up the tent in her room so she could hide and play. 
IMG_0275Next thing I knew, she pulled up her ladybug,

IMG_0272read, then disappeared for a minute. Then…I found her on the stairs reading to Bella!IMG_0276

Aahhhh, the joy of her independence while I laminated!IMG_0273

My Tot Books are going to be so great thanks to this site!

Her room is getting there…

Closet…..

(organization of children’s things should be a business!!!)IMG_0279 IMG_0280Room…IMG_0281 IMG_0283 IMG_0285 IMG_0286 IMG_0287

Work in Progress. Also..rotation. Tatum kept finding things in her closet that she poo-pooed before and now loved! It was a great strategy to keep her busy while I laminated AND she discovered old toys/books new again.

We then ran out to the store, and she got her daily dose of friends. She asked everyone she could see, “Hi, what’s your name? I’m Tatum.” In the car ride home, “Mommy, let’s have a conversation.” It never ends, my little chatterbox social butterfly.

Even when she slips up, she still maintains her sweet demeanor. Right before nap, I wanted her to come to me, and she just stared and did not respond. I had to ask her a few times, and finally I just plopped her in her bed for 2 minutes. She cried, and I returned for her only to apologize. She looked me straight in the eye and said (without any prompting from me), “Mommy, I’m sorry I did not listen to you. I did not honor-love you.” (This is straight from her wall and she remembered!) Wow. This is all about learning and her growing.

I couldn’t hold back but I had to surprise her with her new Minnie suit. This made her want to go swimming, and I couldn’t believe the growth in her stroke! Man, those lessons give her confidence.IMG_0290

While I cut out all the laminating, she put Jack and the Beanstalk storyboard together and I made more!

IMG_0291 IMG_0292 IMG_0293Then we played cards after dinner. We did the fishy find (match the fishies!), and then embarked on Memory cards (match the two based on memory) IMG_0294 IMG_0295 IMG_0296
What a fun day! We always end in prayers, prayer sticks and a “conversation” about our day and what is to come tomorrow. (And of course a series of games to get her to go to bed!)

This time last year, I was disorganized, unsure how to be with a 2 year old all day, ill-equipped on how to teach her…and the list goes on. Now, I see her become independent, kind, helpful, and introspective with a true conscience.

This organization day helped me organize her room AND gave me a whole new appreciation for my Tot.