She’s got the POWER now!

Thank you, Mom, I can do it!

Today, I let go while feeding her, and she continued to grip the bottle! IMG_2406

Not only this, but she has discovered that she can mimic the roller coaster ride of pulling the paper towel roll. It just keeps going and going and going….

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Cabo girl!

Thank you to my dear friend Nina! She brought this adorable tie-dye dress back for her from Cabo.

Tatum is ready to dance the night away!IMG_2401

Dearest Mom

Dear Mom,

Six months ago, our lives looked completely different. We both could not have imagined the changes which were about to pervade our lives.

I must share with you the abundance of feelings that overwhelm me today, this Mother’s Day 2013.

First, you have sacrificed so very much for me. No longer have you had the opportunity to have your own time; it’s been enveloped with Tatum and me. That has to be hard, although joyful, it’s hard after you have been so independent for so many years. I recognize that beauty of all that you have done.

You have opened your house up and overhauled it in record time. You did not need to do this, and I know you say you would have, but deep down, I know how difficult it has to have been for you; not only physically, but emotionally. Years and years of items you have accumulated which were very meaningful, you have had to rifle through and make decisions about. And for what? Me. You cannot fathom the depth of my appreciation.

Next, you have had to put up with my stress with a new baby, moving out of a comfort zone, and a difficult injury. My moods are not always so pleasant, and yet you have been there through it all. Again, your sacrifice and your selflessness overwhelm me and make me so grateful.

I can only pray that I can be as lovely as you have been to me all of my life. Not one moment goes by where I doubt how much you love me with all of your heart. I want Tatum to know that kind of love. I’m so very blessed to have you. And now, I get to raise my daughter with you. There is no greater gift that I can imagine.

May you never forget, and may I always remind you how much I love you.

Thank you for being my mom.


Your daughter and your granddaughter

Steph and Tatum



Happy Reflective Mother’s Day

Reflection on being a mother; 6 months of lessons

Advice…it is everywhere. This is the first lesson I have learned in becoming a new mom. It reminds me about being in the gym in the weight room while meathead boys try to show me the correct form on doing a deadlift or a squat. “Thank you for your help” I would say. I’d take it or leave it. Obviously, opinions on motherhood is on a much grander scale, and I listened to every bit of it only to find out, it did not matter. Reams of books are written on motherhood, and everywhere one turns, there’s a wise woman sharing what not to do or what must be done or one will damage her child. It’s enough to make one run for the hills before bringing home her precious package.

When news got out that I was going to have a daughter, the advice started to roll in. “Run the vacuum when she sleeps;” “Make sure she sleeps with a humidifier;” “Try to rub a little Vicks on her chest.” “Don’t use a baby carrier or you’ll destroy her neck muscles; You have to try this stroller”; “Put her on her stomach; Don’t put her on her stomach”; Have her sleep in your room”; “Give her own room”….SHEESH!
I realized that for every piece of advice, there was 50 other pieces of advice saying something completely different.

One thing I can say: Until one is looking at THAT situation mano y mano, no decision can be made. Trial and error must trump all of the advice.

What have I learned?

  1. I can go three months without a lick of makeup or a curling iron to my hair, and it’s ok!

Sure, I take pride in how I look, and I always try to at least put some under-eye concealer on to hide my dark circles. Sometimes, however, it just doesn’t matter. Really, becoming a mom one become a bit invisible. “Selfies” are now replaced with constant pictures of my little one. Literally, hundreds and hundreds of shots. What did they do before the iPhone? It didn’t matter that I had one black and one blue sock on, or that my hair was hoisted at the top of my head. My child was more important than me and my world was about her, no longer about me. As much as I would like to deny it, before I had Tatum, my needs really came first. Sure, I would stop everything to help a friend or a family member, but deep down, my world was still mine. No longer was this the case; it was truly a new feeling to have her be my first love; a total change in perspective. Hearing her cry in the middle of the night resurrects me out of a deep sleep and her needs rise above my need for slumber

2. Not every minute do I need to be accomplishing something.

I struggle with unproductive time; not free time, but time that is not leading toward some goal. Now, my days are filled with, well, time with my daughter. This may look like me making funny faces for ten minutes followed by lying on her mat and sitting watching her play. Then, of course diaper changes and feedings every couple hours. If someone were to ask me what I accomplished today, I’d say, Nothing. But, in the scheme of things, I accomplished more than I ever had in the past. Time with Tatum.

3. Gray is a color.

And now it’s not only painted on my walls, Revere Pewter to be exact, but it’s a prominent color in my life. Things no longer are black or white. She cries. What is it? Nothing is working. I have no answer, so trial and error begins. Do I pick her up or let her cry. OH, the field of gray just gets bigger. Being a person who needs to fix things and needs to have a pat answer, I have learned that there has to be peace in the unknown.

4. I know what real tired feels like.

I used to complain about always being tired. I yearn for that day when I felt like that; that was not tired. That was sleepy. Being tired is now a way of life; it’s normal. I have learned to be able to function on very little sleep. Recently, a friend of mine said he was so tired because he got too much sleep the previous evening. What does that mean? That’s not even in my vocabulary. Too much sleep. Hmmmm.

5. Love is complete sacrifice; I’m closer to understanding Jesus.

When one becomes a follower of Christ, one tries very hard to understand the sacrifice he made for us. For me. It’s a foreign concept; the thought of loving someone so much one would die for him or her. Love is not just a feeling one has inside; it’s truly so much more. Until one is a mother, I don’t think one can understand that idea; complete and total love; so much that one would give up everything and give them anything. Before, it was an idea I tried to comprehend. Now, I get it. My Father God loves me this much too! Being able to understand the breadth, depth, height, and width of His love has not been possible until the moment I got to have Tatum.

Motherhood is so much more than taking care of a little child. It’s a complete change of character, and a journey I continue to learn and understand (OR NOT) daily.IMG_2372


Today, Tatum was dedicated at church. The whole church and Pastor Terry, prayed over her and blessed her. May her journey be filled with knowing HOW MUCH SHE IS LOVED AND CHERISHED. May I have wisdom in her rearing.




The 12 Week Wonder

A turnaround this week. I entered PT with much chagrin on Monday, right after my 11 week appointment. Would I ever have less tightness and a smaller ankle? All of my compadres on the blog say, “Be patient; it will get better.” Yet, I thought I was stuck in neutral. Finally, we started to do some lateral walking and ladder walking on the floor. Also, he had me balance on a whatchamacallit platform thingy.  I had great balance and walked without a limp. Today…it is actually smaller, and I say: PATIENCE PAYS.

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A Week of…


First, my mom got some kind of stomach bug. She felt like she was going to throw up all day, and then was also very week. All week long, I felt like a bus hit my body, yet kept up with everything on my plate..and then some.

Friday, it bit me too, and I wanted to sleep for days. I even had to leave the Sports Banquet early. Trying some toast right now as I stare at Tatum on her little play mat. These are the times I wish I had another set of hands, but on the other hand, I want to spend ALL of my time with her when she is not in school.

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I can’t waste any time, and I know being sick is just a darn waste. Sometimes, I wish I could just suck my fingers and make it all go away!


Ten Daily Reminders

Adapted from Matt Reagan

Out of sight; out of mind. The person who came up with this truism, understands the power of faith. What can be the challenging part is how to continue in faith when the feelings subside. Reminders can prompt our faith and can be the engine in our step when we just can’t feel our way out of a desperation. Somewhere between the time I put my head down on the pillow and the time my eyes become half moons, Ihave forgotten some realities which can easily be taken for granted in my daily life.

God told Joshua to erect 12 stones as reminders to what He has done. God gave us rainbows to remind us that He shall never flood the earth again; a promise. We need tangible items to keep us walking straight and believing in the unseen. So, I hang these up as to remember.

I have “borrowed” these ten from Mr. Reagan, but I have added commentary under each one as an application for myself.

1)    God exists. (Exodus 3:14; John 8:58)

It may not feel like it sometimes. I tend to focus on my list for the day; my tasks. The last thing I ponder is the ultimate existence of an infinite, loving, in-control God. But He is the one who is completely in charge. I submit to His will for the day and for my list.

2) God loves you. (Romans 5:8; John 16:27; Jeremiah 32:40–41)

Seriously? Me? When I know I’m loved and adored by my Creator, this changes how I talk to myself and how I treat others. I don’t’ need to perform perfectly and I don’t need to be accepted by everyone. He loves me, and sometimes that has to be IT.

3) Jesus died for you, and the Father has now bound himself to give you only good things. (Romans 8:28; Romans 8:32)

Jesus died on a cross. This is the truth. But, how he died and why he died is what is important. He died to pay for all of our sins….mine too. He died to give me another helper, The Holy Spirit. He died and suffered so I won’t have to. He died so I can have acceptance from God NOT through my efforts. Furthermore, the cross signifies that even the most difficult of trials will come to me as blessing, for my ultimate good, no matter how I feel.

4) God sees you as perfect. (Hebrews 10:14; 2 Corinthians 5:21)

But I’m not. I’m filled with anxiety, sometimes pity, and egocentricity. Nothing I do will change how God sees me. Jesus gave His life so His righteousness (and perfection) could be imputed to me (or put into my bank account)  again, regardless as to how I feel. I’m a work in progress and God loves me with my bumps and bruises.

5) That is because of Jesus’s perfection, not yours. You deserve hell. (Romans 3:10; 1 Timothy 1:15)  Key: I’m not perfect so my flesh cannot take claim for some of the things I do well. It’s on loan from God (as Rush would say.)  Next, I must have gratitude and live that way. I deserve what I deserve. Without Jesus sacrifice, I’d be condemned. nothing I can do will change that. Thank you, Father for saving me.

6) You will die. (James 4:14, Hebrews 9:27) So I cannot fear death. It is inevitable. Make each day count, because one cannot know when his/her day is the last.

7) You will live forever in the new heavens and new earth. (Romans 8:18, Hebrews 10:34) But, I don’t fear death because of the promise of the life to come. Live like it’s real because Heaven is.

8) For now, you are an exile on the earth. (Hebrews 11:13–16) I know I’m different. I know not all will accept me. My convictions for my faith make me different. However, my identity is in me being a daughter of the King..not as a citizen of this earth. I will never feel like I fit in, and that is OK.

9) Nothing on earth is truly worth putting your hope in. (Jeremiah 2:13; Galatians 6:14) Which is why I don’t put my hope in the earthly things because they will disappoint always.

10) You have no right to be unhappy. (Philippians 4:4; 1 Peter 1:8–9) Sure, I can be sad for whatever reason, but I must focus on what is lovely, good, positive. My attitude is just that. It’s not a truth.

Reading these everyday will keep me grounded. I will be down and sad at times, but if I focus on these truths, nothing will keep me down.