It’s all about the strategies

It is very apparent that we need a new strategy for getting the bedtime routine more efficient.
This strategy must come from Tatum so she’ll assume responsibility, and if she chooses not to make it happen then it’s coming from her, not us.

More effective this way!
(Natural consequence of a choice)

We decided that teeth brushed and such must happen by 8:00. (she will be told once that it is 7:55). I will encouragingly coach her (for a week or two) to make sure she is brushing effectively. I won’t do it, but I’ll help her be successful with it.

If this is all completed by 8:00, then she can have lights on (after prayers) until 8:30 (or later if it’s the weekend).

She wanted to make reminders this weekend to post in the bathroom.

It has been working so far, and she has buy-in which means she’s obeying because she wants to not because she has to.

Sleep with angels my sweet girl. I’m so proud of your efforts and your heart.